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We Don’t Talk About Dying
I lost my big brother to cancer a few months ago and this is the first song that came (meant for other humans to hear) after his death.
We have also, just this week learned that my mother too has cancer. We are breathing with these two truths.

This is a time of year for deep reflection, for waiting, for incubation and for mystery. Maybe because of that I’ve often found it easier to say difficult things this time of year when the darkness shines and the stars crackle with icelight. The bright broken darkness demands some kind of honesty, or at least a good try.
When Peter was dying we didn’t get to talk with him about it. when he was sick we never mentioned the possibility of death- it was too much for him and maybe for us, and he I think couldn’t bare to see our faces in pain or fear. So we made dirty jokes and talked about sports and watched The Three Amigos and, thank god, told him we loved him over and over and over.
But still
I wish
Dearly
That we had talked about dying
And I guess I wonder if we all did, if we thawed ourselves to the possibility of death and held eachother within it, I wonder if it would make it more impossible to look away from the death and suffering of others. If we looked at our own maybe we would extend our gaze and hold, somehow, the sacred and sometimes terrible reality of the end of any life, and hold it precious.
I sing this song with love and regret and as a blessing to my brother I hope.
And I sing it with great respect for your dead and mine, and with love for all you living ones, looking for what’s true in the darkness and guarding your own tiny spark in the particular cold of this particular time.
Abigail
Ps I know it’s 6 minutes long just try ♥️😂
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Відео

The Garden
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A song for hope in hard times, to remember We have always been loved and that our actions can move across time to create beauty for our ancestors and our future #folksong #prayermusic #hope #garden
Cardinals (for Mrs Wean)
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A song for the ones who see us when we feel our most invisible, to the ones who help us find our voices. This is for our beloved Mrs Wean, a teacher, choir director and friend who gave Shaun his first solo way back when. May her memory be a blessing. #folksong #prayermusic #thebengsons #memorial #inmemory
Fat with the good sh*t!
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I turned 40! This is to celebrate the miraculous shock that we any of us are alive! #folksong #joy #thebengsons #prayermusic #happymusic
We Will Not Be Controlled
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we will not we will not we will not be controlled I am sovereign in my body I am sovereign in my soul! sing it with me! #lajollaplayhouse #sovereigntyhymns #thebengsons #protestsongs #roevwade
The Bengsons - Hope Comes
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The part of us that cries out in pain That says ENOUGH That says HELP That part Is a radical. That part is your personal revolutionary crying out for change. That part is also the hope maker. The wound that sings is the wound that can call in a new world. So friends, Spring health is this incredible organization working so hard to make access to mental health care easy and inclusive and humane....
The Keep Going Song (title track)
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The Full Length Visual Album is now live on Broadway on Demand! livestream.broadwayondemand.com/keep-going-song/ The Keep Going Song: Live From Our House at the End of the World is available now on Spotify, Apple Music and pretty much everywhere! open.spotify.com/album/7fBmtauSIVv4dLMGkrwn4m apple.co/3dzctGd
The Bengsons - When the Party's Over (Billie Eilish cover)
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Cover number 2!
The Bengsons - On a Good Day (Joanna Newsom cover)
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The Bengsons - On A Good Day (Joanna Newsom cover) My goodness so we NEVERRRR have done covers before! And it’s SO VULNERABLE feeling wow why!?!? We’re pushing ourselves and playing with other folks’ we loves music and it’s deep and surprising work. This one is On a Good Day by the brilliant #joannanewsome . This was a song we’d sing to each other when we were getting through our miscarriage ye...
Sea Anemones
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Sea Anemones By the Bengsons Written for Rachel Bonds' Sundown, Yellow Moon Originally produced by Women's Project Theater and Ars Nova SEA ANEMONES I dressed up like a bird but I was a whalein the courtyard trying so hard to learn the game Sea anemones make their enemies in the courtyard trying so hardin your name And it takes some time it takes some timeto find youin the living room you are w...
PULLS OUT by The Bengsons (Tiny Desk Contest 2020 Entry!)
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Hello friends! Here's our official Tiny Desk Contest 2020 submission! THE BENGSONS Abigail and Shaun Bengson are a married composing and performing duo who have performed across the country and around the world. Their music has been featured several times on “So You Think You Can Dance” (FOX). Their theater work includes Hundred Days (La Jolla Playhouse, New York Theatre Workshop, The Public Th...
Angel From Montgomery
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In loving tribute to John Prine
O Comfort Me SINGALONG!
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I've been drinking again don't tell my mother don't tell my father don't tell my friends And I can't go to church I'll see my mother I'll see my father I'll see my friends Oh comfort me Oh lift me up Oh lay me down In your bed The first time I saw her We were both children My hair was still yellow Her lips still red and when we were lovers the rivers were cool and God was my father and time was...
Bells The Bengsons
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Recorded when we found out our run in Louisville was cancelled...with great hurt and great hope!
These Roads
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By The Bengsons From PRAYERS FROM OHIO THESE ROADS I WOULDN'T EVER I'D NEVER THINK I WOULDN'T EVER I'D NEVER THINK I WOULDN'T EVER I'D NEVER THINK ALL MY LIFE I'VE DRIVEN THESE ROADS IN THE SUMMER, I'VE KILLED MANY THINGS WITH MY BODY I'M LEAVING BEHIND ME THE SOULS OF A THOUSAND AND ONE SMALL THINGS I TAKE IN A BREATH AND I EXALE THE CARBON THAT BROKE UP WITHIN ME I'M LEAVING BEHIND METHE SOUL...
Everything to Me (from Where the Mountain Meets the Sea)
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Everything to Me (from Where the Mountain Meets the Sea)
Oh My Love (from Where the Mountain Meets the Sea)
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Oh My Love (from Where the Mountain Meets the Sea)
Money Coming In
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Money Coming In
The Making of the HUNDRED DAYS Original Cast Recording
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The Making of the HUNDRED DAYS Original Cast Recording
"Hundred Days" from HUNDRED DAYS
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"Hundred Days" from HUNDRED DAYS
HUNDRED DAYS Trailer
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HUNDRED DAYS Trailer
"Lift Me" from HUNDRED DAYS
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"Lift Me" from HUNDRED DAYS
"I Will Wait" from HUNDRED DAYS
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"I Will Wait" from HUNDRED DAYS
HUNDRED DAYS Trailer (Under the Radar Festival 2017)
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HUNDRED DAYS Trailer (Under the Radar Festival 2017)
The Bengsons - Vows (Live @ Joe's Pub)
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The Bengsons - Vows (Live @ Joe's Pub)
The Bengsons - Three Legged Dog (Live @ Joe's Pub)
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The Bengsons - Three Legged Dog (Live @ Joe's Pub)
The Bengsons - Live at Z Space
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The Bengsons - Live at Z Space
The Bengsons - Lift Me live at The Public Theater
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The Bengsons - Lift Me live at The Public Theater
The Bengsons - Hundred Days - Live @ Tiny Telephone
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The Bengsons - Hundred Days - Live @ Tiny Telephone
Lie Next To Me
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Lie Next To Me

КОМЕНТАРІ

  • @blueskybrandnewyorkllc
    @blueskybrandnewyorkllc День тому

    love this

  • @kristenmcdevitt1330
    @kristenmcdevitt1330 4 дні тому

    And it’s 2025, the fascists are here and it feels just the same. The past 5 years have been an absolute shit show.

  • @tamarafisher5583
    @tamarafisher5583 5 днів тому

    I listen to this song almost every day. It brings me joy and hope.

  • @sarahgreen9128
    @sarahgreen9128 8 днів тому

    Wow! What a gorgeous rendition of Joanna Newsom’s song. You did her her beautiful music justice.

  • @carolinebergmark8161
    @carolinebergmark8161 14 днів тому

    “A Hundred Days” still gives me goosebumps and brings me to tears. The chords. The tempo change. The lyrics. The delivery that is super charged with positive energy. Brilliant.

  • @lillileong5108
    @lillileong5108 15 днів тому

    😭We need to talk about dying.

  • @lkjhgfdsanna
    @lkjhgfdsanna 15 днів тому

    I have listened to this on Spotify endlessly for over 4 years already. Thank you! Love from Amsterdam

  • @menosproblemos6993
    @menosproblemos6993 18 днів тому

    this reminds me so much of flight of the concords ^^

  • @PrincessPonies81
    @PrincessPonies81 19 днів тому

    absolutely need this song right now - things are tough and scary but we keep going. wishing everybody strength ❤

  • @Direfall_Productions
    @Direfall_Productions 20 днів тому

    WHERE CAN I WATCH IT?????????

  • @cristinamatei5901
    @cristinamatei5901 22 дні тому

    My 2.8 year-old keeps asking for this song, going: "momma, put the one with the pretty lady yelling!" heheh. we listen to it almost every morning and it gives me such strenght and energy! thank you for this gem!

  • @Llen111
    @Llen111 23 дні тому

    i really fell in love in both of you. thank you so much for sharing

  • @oceaninks
    @oceaninks 23 дні тому

    This is incredible❤

  • @BuzziyWilliams
    @BuzziyWilliams 26 днів тому

    Luv this❤

  • @BuzziyWilliams
    @BuzziyWilliams 26 днів тому

    Squidly diddly fiddler

  • @tanvi7222
    @tanvi7222 26 днів тому

    FUCK YES

  • @marybourke7652
    @marybourke7652 26 днів тому

    Amen to this ❤💸📰

  • @HigherSoulContracts
    @HigherSoulContracts Місяць тому

    I need you to come on my podcast. Please! You are such a gift.

  • @abbastolgayylmaz4078
    @abbastolgayylmaz4078 Місяць тому

    felt so good after listening to this piece of heartwork

  • @TheSoulAlignmentCoach
    @TheSoulAlignmentCoach Місяць тому

    This is such a beautiful song. And you are such beautiful people. Thank you.

  • @bu2full1
    @bu2full1 Місяць тому

    Wow! That's one of the most profound and authentic songs I've ever heard. Absolutely beautiful. Such generous grief tending... thank yoy ❤

  • @jacquelinetanqueray5546
    @jacquelinetanqueray5546 2 місяці тому

    You music is so healing. When I am in the depths of despair I find this so therapeutic. Thank you.

  • @jacquelinetanqueray5546
    @jacquelinetanqueray5546 2 місяці тому

    You music is so healing. When I am in the depths of despair I find this so therapeutic. Thank you.

  • @jestevik
    @jestevik 2 місяці тому

    Y’all are seriously tethered to the whole of the universe. Hauntingly beautiful every time.

  • @philcerdorian6429
    @philcerdorian6429 2 місяці тому

    you guys are awesome gratitude

  • @Claudia-zf2sw
    @Claudia-zf2sw 2 місяці тому

    You two create remarkable magical music and it fills me up every single time. Thank you

  • @SarahMiller-lw7hp
    @SarahMiller-lw7hp 2 місяці тому

    jesus christ yall are talented

  • @SarahMiller-lw7hp
    @SarahMiller-lw7hp 2 місяці тому

    i've quoted the chorus in my memoir on my mother's death from cancer, the same year i beat cancer. abigail, shawn, you two are my heart. thank you. so much.

  • @sharonfreedman8595
    @sharonfreedman8595 2 місяці тому

    Wow! Such a Hope Force of Light! a Fueled Power House!

  • @mafaldaluciano4194
    @mafaldaluciano4194 2 місяці тому

    Holly sh… this woman can sing 😮😮😮

  • @zanzabird7612
    @zanzabird7612 2 місяці тому

    Little did we know what was in store for us, 4 years later. Appreciating the love and vitality this song offers my old, weary spirit.

  • @esmeclair7895
    @esmeclair7895 2 місяці тому

    I really play for more empathy, less greed and more respect. I love you guys, I always come back when I feel like I need a bit of your positive bright light spirit ❤️ love much to all ❤

  • @J0ELLEx
    @J0ELLEx 2 місяці тому

    Wow this was so good

  • @J0ELLEx
    @J0ELLEx 2 місяці тому

    This is my favorite song ever

  • @elspethfougere9683
    @elspethfougere9683 2 місяці тому

    This is about them meeting and falling in love right? Or is this from a story or play? I think I remember them talking about falling in love very quickly ajd realsing theyd met their soul person in some interviews a while back? Its a very beautiful joyful song, it wakes me up in my heart and spirit ❤❤❤

  • @sumernoel1553
    @sumernoel1553 2 місяці тому

    Arghhhh 😭 This song makes me cry Every. Single. Time. Good tears. Straight to the heart.

  • @jennymorbey1837
    @jennymorbey1837 2 місяці тому

    It's November 2024 post election and yes the world needs this song more than ever, spiralling out over the years to find us ❤

  • @rosariocalabro7320
    @rosariocalabro7320 3 місяці тому

    I keep coming back, it hits me like the first time, love you bengsons :)

  • @donnaschindel6409
    @donnaschindel6409 3 місяці тому

    That song speaks to my heart, it's a comfort. Thank you

  • @juless9277
    @juless9277 3 місяці тому

    Dug through my blurry pandemic memories to find this song...I couldn't remember the words, but I remembered the feeling and tears. This song hits home in a similar way but in the the totally different current context of post-presidential election times here in the US. Rage, grief, heart breaking open, bringing some joy into the room. Not forgetting what a gift it is to be together, that we will find our way forward together.

  • @DocDreable
    @DocDreable 3 місяці тому

    Would you guys do a new version….for now….?

    • @ahowanicrow
      @ahowanicrow 2 місяці тому

      My thoughts exactly ❤

  • @JanetJacobsen
    @JanetJacobsen 3 місяці тому

    I needed to find this today. TY! <3

  • @howtodiehappy_podcast
    @howtodiehappy_podcast 3 місяці тому

    I cannot even come close to conveying how much I love this song - your energy - your transmission of this beautiful facet of the human experience! Thank you for being. Thank you for creating. 🙏🏾💛🌈

  • @KM-wv2og
    @KM-wv2og 3 місяці тому

    ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @BeckaEcka
    @BeckaEcka 3 місяці тому

    Your soul sings the trees into swaying, The stones into sparkling The mist into falling, gently falling into my own deep grief heart space . The wrapping all around my heart loosens and is pierced by your beautiful song. Mom I love you I miss you I'm sorry I love you.

  • @virginiatrott9888
    @virginiatrott9888 3 місяці тому

    Thanks for reaching out..this is so kind and loving!

  • @eileensmoke6848
    @eileensmoke6848 3 місяці тому

    After Hurricanes Helene and Milton..this song is potent...thank you

  • @JustBeStill522
    @JustBeStill522 3 місяці тому

    4yrs ago this song made me look at the smallest things with gratitude...4yrs later still practicing gratitude for the simplest & smallest things,

  • @energyhealthkc1913
    @energyhealthkc1913 3 місяці тому

    IF you two never did anything...or another thing...this song will forever be your legacy. Your legacy of humanity and connectedness. Your gift to this planet and it's consciousness. Congratulations!

  • @mmmaaajjj2
    @mmmaaajjj2 3 місяці тому

    3 minutes my goodness